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Reaching My Own Personal Goals; UPDATE

Hello; it’s me!!! Again. 🤷‍♀️

My last blog post was about goals; setting them and doing what you can to remain consistent and stick to them. How you can start at ANY point and move forward if you so choose. So today I’m going to follow up on some of my recent goals and the trials and daily struggles of keeping the bigger picture in focus.

Since I live for lists and to do’s a few weeks back I sat down and wrote down goals for myself, along with lists on how to achieve said goals, to accomplish over the next several months. I’m a few weeks into most of those goals so I wanted to recap; not that most will care or be interested but I need to document this to look back on and maybe, just maybe, it will help someone else stick to their plans and achieve whatever goals they set out for themselves.

  1. ) Get active. Go for a walk/jog, lift some weights, do aerobics (water or not), etc. at least 5 days each week. No matter how much I don’t want to. A little over 2 weeks in and I have only had 2 complete rest days. Even on the hardest days, & my lord there have been so doozies.🤬) I always feel so much better when I’m done.
  2. ) Take a serious break from alcohol. No, I don’t think I’m an alcoholic; I just know the empty calories quickly add up and during this chapter of my story I’ve decided that’s not what my body needs. Today is day 9 of not having any alcohol; I still go to my favorite clubs/bars but water is my beverage of choice. (Side not; NOOOO I’m NOT pregnant. 🙄) I have noticed feeling less bloated and my skin is super clear, even during PMS week. So for now, im gonna keep going.
  3. ) goodbye caffeine. If you know me you know I was rarely without a rockstar in my hand for the last 2/3 years. And before that red bull was my drug, and even before that mt dew and Pepsi made up 90% percent of my body. 🤦‍♀️ I had major caffeine withdrawal the first few days. A headache I thought would make my skull pop off and I was beyond sleepy. It didn’t last long enough for me to give up though. One week in and I’ve adjusted and hit my goal and normally surpass 64 ounces of water each day without an issue. (I still hate plain water but give me a flavor packet and I’m set.)
  4. ) Learn to fall asleep without medicine. All of my life I have fought insomnia to some degree. Some weeks I sleep a total of 10 hours in 5 days. Others I would down more sleep aids than I should’ve just to get some kind of sleep. While I still take one benedryl most nights (cause hello allergies. 🤧) I have not taken sleep aids in almost 2 weeks. This is huge for me. The first few days were roughhh. . I didn’t sleep much and still have a night here and there that I toss and turn more than I sleep but I am a work in progress and know I feel better in the morning without taking sleep aids the night before.
  5. .) Take 10 minutes every day to just be. Ten minutes of time to reflect on my day. Remember the blessings I have and breathe deep. Some days it’s in the form of meditation, some days it’s writing and some times it’s just sitting in silence with a face mask/peel on. . But for twelve days, I have made an appointment with myself & kept it. I have historically been an extremely busy person. Always having somewhere to go or something that needs done. Those things are still there but I’ve allowed myself to take a few minutes each day to focus on me and listen to what my body is telling me it needs.

I have other goals I’m working on; work related, financial plans, and health focused but these are the ones I sat down and wrote out plans to follow. I vowed to take each one day at a time and not totally jump off the train if I derailed it a tiny bit.

& yes, I know that to some these are silly goals or I haven’t remained on track long enough to “brag” about my success. . But I vowed to always share the ins and out of my own journey when I started this blog. . . And this is it. This is the lifelong war that I will always fight. And each day of hitting a set target for me is a win and I will always be unapologetically proud of that. . .

I may not be where I want to be or where you think I should be but I’m miles and miles away from where I started.


– My amazing & endlessly loving bonus parents got me a sign that has the above quote on it & my god, is it true. & a beautiful daily reminder to always keep pushing myself while appreciate who I am in this very moment.

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